The reality of handling criticisms

I think retreat letters were important considering that it was the perfect time to tell people how you truly feel. May it be good or bad, criticisms or not, it was a great way to change perspective or have an epiphany. It's also a way to test yourself on how you react to the positive, and of course the negative. You'd be dumb enough if the letters hadn't taken a toll on you. A friend told me that his criticisms were meant to improve me, and I think his letter was one of the truest. It may hurt, but if it will change you for the better, then fire away. It sucks how other people see it as the opposite, they think you're mad or keeping a grudge for a long time, that's not how it's supposed to work!


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